Today, Miriam and I had a girl’s day out – no boys, just the 2 of us girlies! It is so good to reconnect and to just have plain girl fun together especially when our hearts crave for it!
After her school performance, we decided to just take off and go do our manicures, have lunch and chat and laugh together. She had a bit of a disappointed day… Not only did it lift her spirits (after her performance where she and her partner lost their balance during one of the cartwheels), but she also was encouraged through our talk that we don’t always have to win. Yes, we all want to. Yes, we all strive for it. After all, that is what the competition was all about. But in the end, we have to remember that accidents, falls, and mistakes are bound to happen because we are humans. I was grateful that I could be there to watch my girl, be proud of her for going up on the stage and doing her best. I was also so glad that I could be there for her when I was mostly needed to wipe the tears of defeat off her eyes.
Yes, we all feel embarrassed sometimes. Yes, I told her that I would have felt miserable too for a short while if I was her (it is true), but in the end… we all make mistakes, some bigger than others. The point is how we overcome our problems, how we deal with them, what we learn from our mistakes. If we help our children understand that all of us will make mistakes, because we are not perfect, and if we teach them that through mistakes we learn and grow, then our children will develop a stronger sense of self, have more courage to keep on going in order to reach their goal(s), and they will learn to persevere instead of give up when the path is not always as smooth as we’d like it to be.
So our date was a success in that my girl learned to appreciate today’s performance as a learning experience and not as a failure. And instead of preaching to her what she should have done (because she already knows that saying from me “practice makes perfect”), I treated her with a manicure and lunch with her mom! I love reconnecting with my kids, especially when I pay attention to their needs and their problems: to their souls; and then I try to be there to listen
and to lift them up
– giving them wings to fly…